Hi Lee-Gwen

Thanks so much for your comment. I did see 'coming out' as a big event, perhaps this has to do with the fact that most people I know who came out are Christians and it's a hell of a big deal.

It might also be because I am Asian and in more traditional families, this is still frowned upon.

It seems that I've come out indeed (and by writing this article I certainly have) - but no one ever asked and no one has assumed I am bi because I seem to date men only so far. Never had much luck with finding a girlfriend.

But what happens now, now that I also come to realise maybe I'm queer? I have a boyfriend and my family/church people have totally assumed I'm straight.

This goes back to the point in my article, maybe it doesn't matter. Only people who you trust and love, and know will support and love you back deserve to know your personal situations.

So in the context of 'coming out' as making a statement to people who might love you, have expectations of you but won't approve you necessarily. Is coming out necessary?